Showing posts from October, 2017

Hacking Anger: Understanding the Anchor of Anger

Why is Anger such a difficult emotion to get a grip on and really get to a point of personal change with, especially in those 'particular situations' in which we feel so strongly that our Anger is justified and 'the only possible response'?

"The Anchor of Anger" is how I would describe the way I've come to understand anger as it relates to my personal experiences with this emotion.

Anger has been one of the most difficult points of change for me, and I've found that the 'big anger' always starts with the accumulation of 'little moments' of anger. And so it's important to develop the awareness of what kind of pattern we are accessing in those little moments, because the change within anger starts with taking responsibility for those underlying ideas, beliefs, opinions, justifications, expectations, judgments, that we are Accepting and Allowing to Define ourselves in those little, seemingly 'small' situations.

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Hacking Relationships: Humbleness within Hearing Another's Input, Suggestions, and Criticism

Don’t assume a person’s words are “not valid” just because they are “less qualified”, or “less experienced” than you.  You don’t have anything to lose by unconditionally considering and testing their input, suggestions, and perspectives.   We don’t always see every dimension of an issue ourselves and we’re not always as experienced as we think we are. As I was typing out the words for this image it flowed very easily, like I'm stating something so obvious. But I have to say LOL because it took me quite a journey to arrive at the above words. I've had to face many moments of consequence in the form of reacting to the input of another, judging them, dismissing them, going into righteousness or superiority or some such Ego point. Each time this has happened and I later reflected on the moment, I would find that I was holding onto some Definition of myself in relation to how I do something, or what I believe is the most effective way, etc. Granted yes - sometimes we do see the…

Hacking Freedom Radio #3: From Spiritual Escapism to Practical Living with the Desteni Tools

In episode 3 I talk about how in my early twenties I'd become disenfranchised with Spirituality because of a recent relationship breakup that led me to question things, not understanding why it was so hard to deal with emotions and judgments. I was looking for something more and I found the Desteni material which presented practical tools and principles like Self Honesty, Self Forgiveness, and Self Commitment Statements which I immediately began applying and which changed my life forever because I was finally able to start understanding my mind and behavior and changing myself.

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