Communication Hack: Putting a Guard in Front of Your Mouth

One of the primary functions of Self Honesty is checking what you are experiencing in yourself as you are placing words in Reality - whether spoken or written - to determine whether you are possessed by a compulsion like spite, blame, reactions, judgments, righteousness, ego --- so you can then stop and take self responsibility to place a guard in front of your mouth and work on yourself until you are able to place Words in Awareness without creating unnecessary consequences for yourself and others.
The concept of 'putting a guard in front of your mouth' originates from the Bible, as I understand it. Some years ago I heard this concept placed in the context of what these words would imply in relation to Self Responsibility. I think it was Bernard Poolman who first placed it in such context.

I placed the 'Guard' principle in my own words according to how I've experienced and applied this point of Self Honesty and Self Responsibility for myself in relation to the…

Hacking Anger: Understanding the Anchor of Anger

Why is Anger such a difficult emotion to get a grip on and really get to a point of personal change with, especially in those 'particular situations' in which we feel so strongly that our Anger is justified and 'the only possible response'?

"The Anchor of Anger" is how I would describe the way I've come to understand anger as it relates to my personal experiences with this emotion.

Anger has been one of the most difficult points of change for me, and I've found that the 'big anger' always starts with the accumulation of 'little moments' of anger. And so it's important to develop the awareness of what kind of pattern we are accessing in those little moments, because the change within anger starts with taking responsibility for those underlying ideas, beliefs, opinions, justifications, expectations, judgments, that we are Accepting and Allowing to Define ourselves in those little, seemingly 'small' situations.

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Hacking Relationships: Humbleness within Hearing Another's Input, Suggestions, and Criticism

Don’t assume a person’s words are “not valid” just because they are “less qualified”, or “less experienced” than you.  You don’t have anything to lose by unconditionally considering and testing their input, suggestions, and perspectives.   We don’t always see every dimension of an issue ourselves and we’re not always as experienced as we think we are. As I was typing out the words for this image it flowed very easily, like I'm stating something so obvious. But I have to say LOL because it took me quite a journey to arrive at the above words. I've had to face many moments of consequence in the form of reacting to the input of another, judging them, dismissing them, going into righteousness or superiority or some such Ego point. Each time this has happened and I later reflected on the moment, I would find that I was holding onto some Definition of myself in relation to how I do something, or what I believe is the most effective way, etc. Granted yes - sometimes we do see the…

Hacking Freedom Radio #3: From Spiritual Escapism to Practical Living with the Desteni Tools

In episode 3 I talk about how in my early twenties I'd become disenfranchised with Spirituality because of a recent relationship breakup that led me to question things, not understanding why it was so hard to deal with emotions and judgments. I was looking for something more and I found the Desteni material which presented practical tools and principles like Self Honesty, Self Forgiveness, and Self Commitment Statements which I immediately began applying and which changed my life forever because I was finally able to start understanding my mind and behavior and changing myself.

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Hacking Freedom Radio #2: Challenges of Adolescence led me to Spiritual Escapism

In episode 2 I talk about how emotional experiences related to school and social dynamics starting in early adolescence, shaped my feeling of being 'different' and 'not fitting in', which led me to get hooked into escapism through Spirituality in the mind's alternate realities in my early twenties. I was really into the 'love and light' thing - buying into the idea of being a 'special being' here on a mission to 'spread positive energy'. But my love and light didn't support me to have effective relationships and I began to ask myself what am I missing?

In episode 3 I will continue with how my life changed when I discovered the Desteni tools and principles and started applying them every day.

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Hacking Freedom on Anchor Radio: Episode 1 - The Desteni Tools and Freedom

Welcome to my new station! In my first episode I talk about what it means to me to 'Hack Freedom' using the Desteni tools and principles.

Basically 'to hack' means = to access. So I'm accessing my own programs so that I can see what's going on in me, delete programs that don't support me, and install new ones that DO support me.

Stay tuned for episode 2!

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Desteni Life Hack: Why do we react to problems?

Why do we as people tend to react to problems where 'standing up' for something gets turned into a conflict, fight, finger pointing, spitefulness, and even violence?

I've found that when I react to a problem it's because I don't yet fully see and understand the true nature of the problem or the solution - but I've latched onto what I believe the ONLY solution is to what I believe is the ONLY problem - and then when others don't comply with 'my solution' - I feel powerless because I'm unable to implement what I believe is the ONLY solution to the ONLY problem.

So what I find effective in relation to such situations where I recognize this kind of reaction is happening in me, is to remind myself - hey, there's simply more to this problem, and to the solution, than I believe or perceive there is. How can I assist and support myself to better understand more dimensions of this problem? How can I assist and support myself to become more Equal to …